Just a little Reminder…

Here it is OM! The significance/power of Asians (only slightly dramatized).

Revel in our power!

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Adoption – Don’t tell me how “Selfless” Birth Mothers Are

AMEN!

HarsH ReaLiTy

I read a ton of adoption articles and posts. I continuously see the words “the birth mother was so selfless in the adoption process.” I can’t swallow that. Granted some women are in a hard place and their action is what is best for them at the time, but don’t feed me the line “she was selfless.” If anything we might as well change that to “selfish” since the decision is about her. To claim the decision is about the child when that child is not yet even born yet is idiotic to me. I can’t accept that.

As an adoptee I understand the feeling of rejection that often comes with the realization that you were given up. We have TV to thank for providing a myriad of “reasons” why this takes place, but ONLY one reason is ever the “true” reason per individual. That is what many people just don’t…

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Adieu

When you leave again for “reasons”,

Don’t expect me to wait for your return,

I have learnt my lesson through the seasons,

And now events will take a turn.

 

Perhaps it’s care that’s lacking,

Mountains of  emptiness are building,

When the limit is reached and I’m cracking,

The dove is no longer gliding.

 

Twas only an attachment they said,

An anonymous person online,

Someone who messed up your head,

Dangerous illusions wrapped in twine.

 

Everything is done and over now,

No more to contemplate, no more to cry,

To the computer screen, a quick adieu and a hasty ciao,

Perhaps it’s time I give work another try.

Food: Dango vs. Mochi

People commonly get dangos and mochi mixed up – I can’t blame them. Dangos are related to mochis however the two are completely different:

Dango:

Dangos!!

Dangos are sweet dumplings made of Mochiko a rice flour. Dangos are usually served with tea and can be found year round (though there might be different varieties during different seasons). Traditionally, three to four dangos are placed on a skewer (as shown in the picture above).

Mochi:

Mochi with red bean paste filling.

 

A mochi is a Japanese rice cake. They can be any shape (molds are sold for specific shapes) and are usually eaten around the time of the New Year. The texture of mochi is sticky and there are usually fillings inside the mochi (usually red bean paste and taro). However, mochi isn’t always made of sticky rice! Ice cream mochi is another variety:

Ice Cream Mochi

 

 

Internet Irony

Recently, I’ve been contemplating about the Internet and how it affects a person’s behavior in “real life”. It’s an extremely broad topic that has countless facts and opinions mixed in, so there is no definite “good” or “bad” answer that will define the Internet. Thus, we shouldn’t dedicate ourselves to searching for an answer and applying it to millions of different people. However, since it IS the Internet, I suppose I’m entitled to my own opinion so I’ll throw my own two cents in on the irony of the Internet, and what we should do to combat it.

“U mad bro?” I can’t count how many times I’ve seen that phrase. Be it forums, Facebook posts, chatroom messages, it’s everywhere. Stripping away the trollish identity of this meme, the underlying theme is “The internet is not to be taken seriously.” I’m sure most people know this fact – what is said on the Internet by some stranger cannot affect what your college application will look like nor will it prevent you from working hard to get your dream job (most of the time). However, we still feel offended when that stranger says something that “insults” us. Why is it that we can’t just brush it off and say nonchalantly “It’s the internet, it doesn’t matter”?

The scene that usually follows the insult is a nasty chain of logic vs. purposeful stupidity. Is it necessary for us to stoop so low to “get back” at these people? Not only that, but the rage on the net carries over into real life – why let something that doesn’t matter become something that matters? Why let the dark cloud of a stranger on the Internet hover over you? Sometimes, my sister will come to me in a fit of rage saying some person on the Internet (who she just met) insulted her and called her a nasty name. Would I let that fly in real life? Absolutely not. However, again, it’s the Internet. The best way to deal with these trolls is to ignore them. “Don’t feed the trolls.” Playing the white knight or defensively talking back will only serve for their entertainment while you make a fool of yourself. Especially don’t let their actions affect your actions in real life – becoming depressed over what they say is like allowing them a “victory” over you.

I have strong feelings towards this topic mostly because my sisters deal with it quite a bit. Thus, I hope that people will save themselves from losing their real self in real life to these trolls on the Internet.

Extra:

Originally, this post was supposed to be about relationships online – not sure how it turned into a post about trolling and the irony of our actions and words. So, if the article seems messy and deviates from the topic once in a while, THAT’S my reason why. Thanks for reading!!